More details on the Altercation...

So based on what I was told by Robert and the school I think I finally got the true/whole story: basically the girl was laughing at him...she is one who has teased him a lot over the years and he was just already stressed out so he jumped her, punched her in the face, then she grabbed his things off the cafeteria table and he grabbed her to make her let go and ended up scratching her collarbone bad enough to draw blood, then he punched her arms a couple of more times and jumped her as she was trying to run away. I too feel it was uncalled for...I spoke with the principal yesterday and Robert will be ticketed with an assault charge (he thinks 3rd degree assault). Based on the investigation the girl did nothing wrong so she is not being ticketed or suspended.

I am worried that the parents will sue us personally and of course my ex husband is playing the "I live 4 hours away so it's all in your court" game. Not only that but I figure we will have to go to court...and it will most likely be either before we go to mediation in March or right around the same time.

The other thing that worries me about it is I am told this girl is a "pom". Well then you know word's gotten around to the athletes throughout the school. I am worried, so very worried that Robert will be approached by one of them (and not in a nice manner) to 'discuss' how he hit a girl...not only a girl, but a Pom...and left a red mark on her face to top it off...Ugh, I wish I didn't worry so much but I know how teens can be when you hurt one of their friends.

I'm not sure if or how much I've mentioned that he also has disabilities (I feel he's on the ASD spectrum, just high functioning, but my ex wouldn't cooperate with testing when he was young). He has an "emotional disturbance", ADD, ODD, a physical disability (brain surgery when he was a baby) and an anxiety disorder. His counselor suggested I apply for SSI for him before he turns 18 (on the 3rd of next month)...because she doesn't feel he will be able to function in a job or even on his own as an adult. Unfortunately, at this point my hands are tied because legally I have no decision making responsibility for him...that is my ex's "responsibility" but he is fighting having the court papers changed (it's been pending since August and we have an appt for mediation at the end of March...after he turns 18!)....

So those are the details as far as I've been able to piece together anyways.

I did manage to get Robert into the pediatrician (which by the way, this was his last visit with her because he's got to change to a regular family medicine doctor now!)...and was able to get him some anti-depressant/anti-anxiety meds. I hope I don't get charged with contempt of court over it..but even if I do I could probably get them to drop the charges since it was a matter of helping and protecting my child versus just letting it all go and chancing this all happening again...It's not like I would've been able to get Kenny to drop everything, miss a day off work and come down from Wyoming to *gasp* help his son!?

Ok, now that sounded rude and so I am done. I might actually try to go to bed here soon...