Frustrated Friday!

Yeah, I'm frustrated today....

Remember the news I was supposed to have by Wednesday on Harley's placement for next year? Yeah...no notes from the school...voice mail after voice mail left...no return calls! GRH! I've called all 3 numbers for the area director, left messages for the special ed teacher and the psychologist at Harley's school and have not gotten ONE returned call! Even if they don't have an answer, they could at least call me back and let me know that! Don't ya think?

Now Kelly *sigh* she's at it again! already?! I don't understand...She called yesterday and asked if she could go to Rachel's house and work on math homework, I had my doubts...but figured I've got to let her dig her own grave right? So I gave her a chance and told her she HAS to be home by 6pm...she says "Oh no I'm just gonna spend the night since she lives across the street from the school"--"umm....Sorry but that's the wrong answer -- you WILL NOT be telling the parents what you are going to do, you ASK the parents if it's ok". So I reiterate, home by 6 and if you're gonna be as much as a minute late you BETTER call me! As soon as I hung up with her I called Rachel's mom who said that Rachel had told her they were planning a sleepover and she didn't like the idea -- on a school night (and I agree)...I explained that I already told Kelly NO to the sleepover. Then I ask if she can bring Kelly home around 6 or if I need to pick her up...she says she drives right past my house to go to the health club and she goes at 6 so it would be no problem at all to drop Kelly off at home "either side of 6"...Fine! Perfect!

Ten minutes later Kelly calls and tells me this CRAP that Rachel's mom said that "it would be too much hassle so she would rather just have Kelly spend the night". BUSTED KELLY! I just got off the phone with Rachel's mom and we discussed it. Strike one on lying...Then I ask her why she is calling at 2:15 when class doesn't let out until 2:30 and she tells me the teacher let her out of class early. I tried to call the attendance office at the school to verify that she hadn't missed any classes but only got voice mail boxes -- after calling 3 times! GRH!

5:45 Kelly calls and tells me "I'll be home closer to 8:00" -- umm, again NO! "well Rachel's mom already left for the health club and I have no way home"...Fine, I'll come and get you...The response (with an attitude I must add)...But you don't know where Rachel lives (ahh, but I DO!)...Kelly knows that Andrew's at work, has taken the van with the carseats in it and that I'm waiting on Harley's speech therapist so I won't be able to head over till about 6:30pm. FINAL STRAW!! or at least I thought so....

6:30 Andrew gets home and I bolt out the door....I am bristling with Anger and frustration by now....Get to Rachel's 10 minutes later (she doesn't live far) and Kelly gets into the van all happy and smiles like she's had the time of her life! I ask why Rachel's mom didn't bring her home and she tells me "because she had to go to the health club"....I told her we had discussed it and that her mom was going to bring her home on her way to the health club since she drives right past our house...THEN Kelly tells me that she had told Rachel's mom she wasn't ready to go home so Rachel's mom left without her....Now, I had talked to her mom personally and told her that she needed to come home around 6 .... so WHY did mom not stick to OUR conversation and tell Kelly she had to go anyways? (Did I mention that Mom is the school social worker?)

Oh yeah on Wednesday her dad had called and has "had a hard week" so he wanted to know if I would take the kids a day early overnight (Thursday) because he and his girlfriend are going away for the weekend (must be nice when you have no job and soon -- no place to live!?) Well, I had given the kids the option of what we would have for dinner and they wanted Sub Sandwiches (home made style). So we had been waiting for Kelly to get home to eat dinner (and I had to feed the little ones before the rest of the family because she was "late" getting home).

7:15 Speech therapist has finished and is leaving and we are getting ready to sit down and eat when Kelly announces that she already ate and didn't want to eat dinner with us...I EXPLODE at this point - The sub sandwiches were mostly her idea -- AND we held dinner for her too...

Well just before I sit down to eat, I check my email -- Lo and behold, there's an e-mail from the school telling me that Kelly MISSED A CLASS today!! GRH!! I had a feeling that was the case...I asked her about it -- I ditched my 6th hour class (American Govt)-- WHY!? She was just about to get her texting back -- and now she's losing it for ANOTHER week. She explodes on me then...making me feel like dirt and the worst mom in the world....

She tells me she already has an A in that class so missing one class is no big deal --- WRONG AGAIN, not only that but this was now the FOURTH lie of the day!!

She goes on telling me about how no one cares, that no one allows her to be herself, that her life is the pits...I respond with yeah...when you lie and ditch classes your life WILL feel like the pits!
I asked so me allowing you to have friends over EVERY weekend...how long HAS it been since there's been no one spend the night here on weekends? I can't even remember! I buy her the clothes she asks for (thankfully she's not a skin-showing kinda gal)...I let her wear her makeup the way she wants (while her dad harasses her over how much eye makeup she wears)...I give her the space to breathe and be a teenager...she has to give me 9 hours of babysitting a month -- to pay for her phone!! That's the ONLY thing that she has to do! Andrew thinks she was just playing on my emotions and hoping I'd feel bad for her so that she wouldn't have such a "hard" consequence this time...WRONG AGAIN! (well, it made me feel lower than dirt, but it didn't make me "ease up" on her grounding).

I went on to tell her that I don't think Rachel is a great choice of friends because Rachel's done nothing for her other than talk her into lying about EVERYTHING and ditching classes...She YELLS at me that Rachel didn't even ditch with her and it was her choice to ditch...which I understand BUT she never once ditched class until she started to hang with Rachel at school! She never (got caught anyways) in a lie (or FOUR) till she started to hang with Rachel.

So needless to say, she is home from Thursday till Sunday night with me...she will NOT be getting her texting back for at LEAST two more weeks now...she will NOT be going to anyone's house or having anyone over...she will NOT be going to the movies with Jenna this weekend. She's stuck...

Well, she ends with telling me that the administrators had talked to her about her ditching activities two weeks ago and that she has detention on Friday (today) from that infraction. I have a hard time believing her, so I told her I would call the school to verify it. IF I find out that she doesn't have detention (and hence is caught in ANOTHER lie) she will lose her summer season pass to Elitches AND her texting for another month. Of course there are no buses to bring her home at 3:45 so I have to go and pick her up...We have to be back home by 4 to get Harley off the bus (the bus driver won't let him off the bus unless she sees someone is home).

I just don't know who my daughter is anymore...she lies so much (at least in the last 2-3 weeks)...she's totally changing who she used to be....I don't know what to do!!